Your Worth It!

       During one of my most recent panels that I did for "So I Married A Birth Mother" one subject really hit me hard and made me feel for the birth mothers that were in the room. That was the fear of rejection. I can only imagine how these birth mothers felt and how scared they might have been when getting ready to tell someone they're dating or someone they cared for about there story with adoption. One of many things could happen in such a situation. They could accept the facts and see the blessings that adoption brings into the lives of many, it could be scary for the person receiving the information trying to think of how this will affect there life in the long run or they could not accept the information and take it in a completely unnecessary way.
       Well, I'm here to tell you "YOUR WORTH IT"! If a person really has a problem with your story about adoption and contemplates your relationship because of it than that person IS NOT WORTH IT! Nobody has the right to judge you for your choices and for your past. Every person out there has made choices both good and bad and big or little. But what you do about your choices is what makes the difference in your life and the lives of others. There are many people out there who will tell you that your choices are what make a person and what makes a persons life. Those people are people that I like to call WRONG. What you learn from your choices and what you do about it is what makes a person.
       I don't think people realize the amount of love it takes to be able to accept that maybe parenting a child is not the best thing for you and the child. That maybe the best thing for this child is to give this child a chance, a better life and a family. I can't personally say I know how it feels to be able to make such a decision but I can see the amount of love that is given on both ends of the adoption. So the quote "It's about love" is true in it's entirety. And if people can't accept it or don't beleive it than there not worth wasting your time. There are many more people that are out there that understand and are willing to set things aside and accept your past no matter the situation. Now however you can't expect every guy to either accept or deny your story. You also have to understand that this can be alot to take in, especially depending on when in the relationship you decide to tell the person you are dating or have a relationship with. You must allow and be understanding that they might need a minute or a little time to really absorb the information and accept what has happened and see the blessings it has created. And if said person really does care about you than they will be willing to stand by your side. And if not than it may hurt but atleast the truth is out and there is nothing to hide. After all, isn't dating all about finding "The One"? And if you truelly care about someone or love someone you don't keep secrets. That's part of being in a relationship and building a relationship.
         When you decide to tell that special someone I cannot tell. There are many factors as to When, Where and How to tell someone your story. I encourage you to tell your story and share it with others and how it has blessed your life.  As adoption is truelly selfless. Be strong, be brave and don't be scared  just remember that you gave a child a chance, a life a family and a love that can't be beat and there is no greater love than that. Because you were strong and made a choice that changed the life of many for the better, that selfless act makes you..... "WORTH IT"!